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Supplies: the other end of their list

When your loved one adds something they are running low on, it arrives here. Anyone in the Circle can see it and add to it; the Family Advocate approves and marks it ordered.

Written by Brian Fluhr

Supplies is where the things your loved one needs come to you.

When they add something to Things I Need on their side, it appears on your Supplies list. It is one list seen from two ends, so nothing has to be relayed by phone and nobody has to remember.

Where to find it

Open Caregiving and choose Supplies.

What you do here

Everyone in the Circle can see what has been asked for, and anyone can add an item. Approving a request and marking it ordered are the Family Advocate's to do. If those buttons are not there for you, that is why, and you can still add items and see where each one stands.

Approval and buying sit with the family on purpose. Your loved one says what they need; the family decides and arranges it. That split is the whole design, and it means asking costs them nothing.

Why this beats a phone call

Small asks are the ones that go missing. They come up at awkward moments, they are easy to forget by the evening, and asking twice feels like nagging to the person doing it.

A written list solves all three quietly. Things get added as they are noticed, you pick them up when you have a moment, and neither of you has to hold it in your head.

Reading the list kindly

A long list is not a sign that something is wrong. It usually means the habit has taken, which is exactly what you want.

An empty list is not a sign that all is well either. Plenty of people are slow to ask for anything at all. If it stays empty for a long stretch, that is worth a gentle conversation rather than a conclusion.

What it does not do

It does not order anything or spend any money. Nothing is bought automatically, no shop is contacted, and no card is charged. A person still does the buying.

Nobody is notified the moment you open the list, and there is no count of how often you look. Your loved one can see, on her Privacy & Sharing tab, a record of who else opened her information in the last 30 days, listed by role and by day. It is hers alone.

If more than one of you helps

Recording an order once it has been placed is what keeps two people from buying the same item on the same Saturday. It takes a second, and it is the main reason the list is shared rather than private.

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